Loving Yourself Doesn't Have To Be Hard: Read These 9 Tips

To Love Yourself Doesn’t Have To Be Hard: Read These 9 Tips

It is without doubts that the noises, occurrences, disappointments and clutter in the world today are beginning to make several individuals listen to the crowd more than they do to their inner voices. If negative thoughts and criticism from others usually sink into your heart to affect your mood, self-esteem and confidence then you have a lot of work to do on your self. It’s most likely that your self-love meter is crying for help and needing a push-up. Without further ado, I’ll tell you what and what you need to know for you to love yourself more than ever before.

For you to have enough love to share around, you need to deeply love yourself and accept the person you are. Remember you cannot pour (to others) from an empty cup (you). It doesn’t end there, you should always be proud of who you are and who you are becoming. As long as you’re doing the right thing, you need not be ashamed of how someone else sees you. Loving yourself doesn’t make you self-centered, it makes you be in control of your happiness. Criticism will only help you get better, don’t ever let it push you to look down on yourself. Repeat it to yourself time after time that you cannot fail at being yourself.

One major problem is wanting to be another person

Imitation has now become the order of the day but you need to always remind yourself that you are a unique individual. No one can be exactly like you and you cannot be exactly someone else. Even children sometimes have some slightly different personalities outside their parent’s genetic makeup. Hence, being yourself makes you original which is more valuable than being a photocopy 🙄 . Find your own unique style and ability, then enjoy it. The real hard work is to overcome who you perceive yourself to be. So who do you think you are or you aren’t?

You also have a million potentials you haven’t discovered yet. Why not take a deep look at yourself and celebrate yourself. You also deserve some love and attention. Nobody will celebrate you the way you will celebrate yourself. You may not have attained that height but who says a work-in-progress would not become a finished product? So, stop underestimating yourself. If you are looking for that one person that will love you and accept you for who you are, look into the mirror, the person you see should do that.

Common, believe in yourself

Can you please believe in yourself a little more? Many people give up on their dreams when they are only an inch away from that door that will open up to the opportunities they have been looking out for. You have to just say it to yourself that you are a winner whether anybody likes it or not. You need to believe in yourself even if nobody does and that’s why you must not give anyone the consent to make you feel inferior. Build a wall around your heart that bounces off hurting words and throws vulgar threats off the fence of your mind.

Love every exciting and tough moment or better still adapt to it. You cannot abhor the experiences and occurrences that shaped and moulded you. Life needs to be adventurous for you to learn from the bad times and value the good times.

So, how do you love yourself? Let me quickly share a story with you.

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I remember my days in secondary school.
There was a bright, dazzling and clever girl who was my friend.
I got so attached to her that her yes was my yes and her no was my no.
To make matters worse, I began to look down on myself
and looked forward to her affirmations before accepting any belief.
My personal perception gradually became shallow 😥.

To Love Yourself Doesn't Have To Be Hard: Read These 9 Tips
To Love Yourself Doesn’t Have To Be Hard: Read These 9 Tips

Then I started depending on her answers during tests and assignments.
I believed if I didn’t read enough, she would be there to fill the gaps.
Whenever we had a little misunderstanding, I’d be so afraid.
It got so bad that I once told my parents I wasn’t going to school anymore.
I was so terrified about life without her. Yeah, it was that bad 😣.

To Love Yourself Doesn't Have To Be Hard: Read These 9 Tips
To Love Yourself Doesn’t Have To Be Hard: Read These 9 Tips

Life happened, I mistakenly broke her mirror. 
Of course, I apologized but it was unaccepted.
I tried to make her see things in my light but she was too hasty emotionally.
Then we had a French test and I tried to depend on her again.
This time she covered everything including the commas and the full stops 🤣.

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Oh, I failed woefully. You know that kind of zero that has big eyes and a frowning mouth.
It was then I remembered mum studied French.
I quickly ran to her preemptively for extra lessons before exams 🏃‍♀️.
Then I started to look inwards to find other sources of happiness.
Picked my pieces and read like my life depended on it.
I also started to take a second thought on people’s opinion before accepting it as my reality.

To Love Yourself Doesn't Have To Be Hard: Read These 9 Tips
To Love Yourself Doesn’t Have To Be Hard: Read These 9 Tips
The crux of the matter:

If she had not shown me Life, I probably would have continued in that manner till God-knows-when.

Moral:
  1. Don’t hate or sulk when Life shows you itself. It might hit you in the head with a hard brick.😰
  2. Such is Life and it’s not new. You are probably the one-millionth person experiencing this.
  3. It’s just another time to enjoy a change. Whether you expect it or not, change is certain.
  4. It’s a season to know more about yourself. You probably have more natural potential than you could use if you lived one hundred lifetimes. 
  5. Some words are said to shape you, strengthen you and make you a better person. Learn from them.🤔
  6. Some situations have to happen for you to discover your purpose and follow your intuition.
  7. Your life’s story is unique. It needs to be cooked well to help others who might be in your shoes in the near future. 
  8. When you discover your own happiness, everything else is secondary. If you haven’t found it, you just need to keep looking.
  9. Don’t spread yourself too thin that you end up losing yourself while trying to make Life understand you. Retain your sense of perspective.🤗

You and I know what we mean by Life in this context. It could be anything not going the way you envisaged.

Move on and enjoy the bright side of you! 

Post Author: Joseph Abimbola

Abimbola Joseph is a creative content developer who derives pleasure in encouraging individuals to be the best they can be in all relevant facets of life. She believes that we all have a better version of ourselves which can be leveraged to impact others and make the world a better place. 😉

44 Replies to “To Love Yourself Doesn’t Have To Be Hard: Read These 9 Tips”

  1. I have actually always really loved myself and I feel totally blessed that this has been the case for me! I see so many people suffer from depression because they lack self-love 🙁 It makes me really sad and I try to help them see the brighter side of everything!

  2. These are all great, sound tips that we should follow. Of course sometimes it’s easier said than done but with time and adequate self-care, can be accomplished.

  3. I think I need to cut out your list and keep it in my pocket. I particularly like that some situations have to happen to find purpose, as sometimes I get stuck in the ‘poor me’s’ about things that occur.

  4. Those are some really good tips on loving oneself. People often try to love themselves by being like someone else which can end up being not helpful at all!

  5. This post carries so many important life lessons. Should be REQUIRED reading for young people! Thank your for sharing your personal experiences too. It helps make these concepts more relateable.

  6. Oh yeah. Lucky me I never wanted to be someone. Except for Rose McGowan in Charmed back in the school days. 🙂 Such pressure! Nice tips!

  7. Wanting to be another person can really get you down. I hope everyone that is stuck on wanting to be someone else realizes that they are there own person and they should own it.

  8. This post remind us we need to love and take care ourselves. We don’t need to please other to give the attention that we need. Loving your words!

  9. So I love the timing of this piece for me. The end of relationships are hard and this “Some situations have to happen for you to discover your purpose and follow your intuition” really resonated with me. Thanks 🙂

  10. I have a good read with this post. Loving yourself not only do with loving with your own self but also involves of loving others day by day.

  11. Yes it is really matter. We have to love ourselves, we have to know our own good personality and continue to live with a purpose.

  12. Such a great post. Loving our self is really important. I hate being another person. We should be on our own and not imitating others,

  13. I am constantly battling self love issues when it comes to the physical form but I try my best to love everything about myself that doesn’t cause me pain. Most I do love myself because without doing so I wouldn’t be able to love others.

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